Please Don’t Kick My Head (Ridiculous Story About Dealing with Mistakes)

I wrote this ridiculous story a while back as an idea for kids book (chose the wrong Direction…but that’s another story). I thought it was worth sharing. It may just be ridiculous enough to put a mental image in the back of your head that you can use to shake off and laugh at a mistake you make one day:

Please Don’t Kick My Head

Nobody knows why, really.
The grown-ups of this town all walk around
with their heads hung down.
Some grown-ups have their
heads hanging down so low
that they actually drag on the ground.

It’s sad really, but all
we know is that the more
mistakes someone makes
the lower they should hang their head.

Since everybody makes mistakes then
everybody has their head hanging down
when they get older. Sometimes they
even trip over their own head
when they are trying to walk. It is
all very sad. But that’s the way it is.

One day a grown-up was at a
soccer game and their head
was hanging down on the ground
next to where the ball landed.
A kid accidentally kicked the
grown-ups head because he thought
it was the soccer ball by mistake.

The kid felt really bad and he started
hanging his head down a little bit too,
since he made a big mistake.

Then one day a stranger
came to the town. He was a grown-up,
but his head was straight up high.
Everyone wanted to know how
he had gone his whole life
without making any mistakes.

Someone finally asked the stranger
what was his secret to never
making a mistake.

The stranger laughed so hard he
fell over. He kept laughing
and laughing and he couldn’t stop
laughing. Everyone stared.

The stranger finally stopped laughing
long enough to tell everyone that he has
made thousands of mistakes. More mistakes
than he could even remember.

Someone asked him why his head
wasn’t hanging all the way to the floor if he
had really made all of those mistakes.

The stranger said that
was the silliest thing he ever heard.
Now a few of the grown-ups started
to pick their heads up a little bit.
They were curious.

The stranger explained that making mistakes
was no reason to hang your head in shame.
He told them that he learned from
his mistakes instead of worrying
about them or hanging his head in shame.

The stranger went on to tell them about
some of his biggest mistakes and what
he learned from them.

After hearing that, more people
begin to lift their heads up, anxious to
hear more. They had actually made some
of the same mistakes that the stranger made,
except they got very upset and hung their
heads down.

One of the oldest grown-ups in the
town tried to tell everyone that this
was an outrage. That anyone who made
that many mistakes should hang their
head all the way to the floor. But
this time, no one was listening to the old
grown-up. They were more interested
in the stranger.

The stranger explained that he
never tries to make mistakes, but he does.
He thinks about the mistake for a few minutes
and remembers the mistake if it can help
him do better the next time. But he
doesn’t sit around worrying about it.

Everyone liked this stranger and wanted
to hold their heads up high like he did.
The grown-ups started to lift their heads
up more and more every day. And sometimes
they would make mistakes, but then they
thought about the stranger and learned from
their mistakes instead of hanging their heads down.

The grown-ups were getting happier
every day and it was very rare that
anyone tripped over their own head or
accidentally kicked someone else’s head
by mistake. But even when they did,
they would just say sorry and try harder,
instead of hanging their heads down.

They were happy.

Published in: on April 30, 2009 at 7:32 am  Comments (2)  

The Top 4 Most Likely People to Change Your Life…for the Better!

1. Timothy Ferriss: A true pioneer in lifestyle design. A person that questions every assumption and bad habit we have, but doesn’t stop there. He tears them apart and relentlessly explores and shares his remedies for the wasted time, lost productivity and just plain stupid things we do all day. (

2. Leo Babauta: Leo’s book, The Power of Less, was the first book I ever pre-ordered. I couldn’t wait to read it…and yes, it was worth it. Highly recommended read. If you follow even some of Leo’s advise  from the book or on his blog it will change your life for the better. Simplicity, productivity, health, happiness, etc…it’s all there! (

3. Robert Kiyosaki: Recently elevated to “prophet” status based on predictions he made many years ago, Robert has been preaching and teaching about the dangerous road that so many people in America are travelling on financially. Will the economy recover…probably, but a better question is will we fix the problems that have become so prevalent. Not likely. So will it crash again? Probably, and it could be even worse. Robert teaches us what to do about it, if only we will listen. (

4. Andrew Matthews: The secrets in the staggeringly successful book The Secret was no secret…at least not to those who read the books of Andrew Matthews (and yes, others I’m sure). The information was already well documented in Happiness in a Nutshell (just noticed that the pocket version is offered for download at a special low price during April – $4.95). Have a look if you don’t believe me. Andrews books are also very entertaining and the cartoons that he draws himself add a visual element to the teachings that first engaged me. (


5. Chris Guillebeau: In his own words: “The Art of Nonconformity (AONC) project chronicles my writing on how to change the world by achieving significant, personal goals while helping others at the same time. In the battle against conventional beliefs, I focus on three areas: Life, Work, and Travel.” Congratulations Chris on finding success as you define it and being generous enough to share what you have learned. If you haven’t read 279 Days to Overnight Success and you are considering making a living online – then you are making a big mistake. It is packed with honest, thoughtful, practical and valuable advice for anyone interested in an online living (don’t worry – it’s FREE – no strings!). (×5/)


QUESTION: How in the world did you come up with this list?

ANSWER: I based it purely on my own personal opinion and feelings. Nothing scientific here, no exhaustive studies or world-wide polls. I based by ranking the people that have, and are still influencing me in a positive way. People that freely, openly and honestly share what they have learned and how they learned it. People that really seem to be genuine and legitimate. They may not be the richest or most successful people in the world…but I believe them, and I can’t wait to read whatever they write next. I also believe they want to help others and share what they have and are learning above just making money.

QUESTION: Why aren’t there any women in this list?

ANSWER: I don’t know. It wasn’t intentional, but when I look at the people that are having the most influence on me now…and those that have had the most influence in the past…they all seem to be men (probably just because I am a man, but who knows). Nothing intentional here. If a female blogger or writer breaks into my Top 4 I will update the list immediately and without hesitation…let me know by adding a comment if you have any suggestions.

QUESTION: What if I disagree with the people on this list?

ANSWER: Great! Please comment on this list with your additions/subtractions and anything else you feel like sharing below…


This list was posted on The Mother of All Lists. Go take a look, really great collection of lists all categorized for you.

Published in: on April 8, 2009 at 2:43 pm  Comments (3)  

The Hand Drawn Map Association

Hand Drawn Map Association

Hand Drawn Map Association

I may be old-fashioned, but I have always been drawn to arts and crafts festivals. I love to see the work of talented artists, especially when you can see the effort and care that certain artists put into their work.

In this fast-paced digital world I don’t often get that feeling. Not that there isn’t the same (or sometimes greater) amount of effort involved in designing websites and graphics…but it just doesn’t draw me in like the booth of an artist at an art show. The feeling of walking up to a work of art and just looking at it in awe of the work of the artist. Just standing there…wow!

I got that feeling when I went to the Hand Drawn Map Association’s website. Like I was walking through an art festival and not sure of what I was going to find next. And then every once in a while I got pulled and then just looked in awe at the work of the artist. I can see and feel the care and effort that went into some of these works.

Check it out…and submit your own hand drawn map!

Published in: on March 26, 2009 at 6:44 am  Leave a Comment  

The 4HWW Activation Map – Make Life Work for You

Timothy Ferriss opened up a lot of doors (and windows) for people with his revolutionary book The 4-Hour Workweek. If you haven’t read the book yet, please stop wasting your time and go buy it. You can find it anywhere (it’s a #1 New Your Times Bestseller and a #1 WSJ Bestseller).  The 4HWW Activation Map is a supplemental visual guide I made to help me implement the lessons that Tim shares in the book. This map does not cover everything, and please note that this map was designed for ME…NOT YOU. I say this because it is critically important (and one of the guiding principles of this blog) that YOU make YOUR OWN MAP. Your starting points and the obstacles you encounter will be very different than mine. We all have different strengths and weaknesses and we all come from very different backgrounds. So even though I share this map and hope that you find some value in it, it is my map, custom-designed for me.

For those of you that are not aware of Timothy Ferriss or the The 4-Hour Workweek (hard to imagine given his stellar success – but anyway) here is a brief description (taken from the press section on Tim’s site):

The 4-Hour Workweek is not another book on the work-life balance describing the problems we all face. It is about creating solutions. Simply put, it is about luxury lifestyle design. And lifestyle design doesn’t take much time. It just takes a few uncommon decisions, and even more uncommon actions to achieve its three necessary ingredients: time, income, and mobility.”

Also please note that this is my first draft. I would really like to revisit this map and incorporate the DEAL principles into the map visually. Here are the DEAL principles in a nutshell:

  • Definition: Define what you want to be doing.

  • Elimination: Ask yourself three times a day “am I being productive, or am I being busy?” Get rid of the noise and interruption.

  • Automation: Delegate or automate the remaining tasks, even sending personal tasks overseas.

  • Liberation: Enjoy your mobility and use the time you create.

Enough said, here is the map…

The 4HWW Activation Map

The 4HWW Activation Map

As always, I’d love your comments and feedback. Here is a PDF version.

Published in: on March 22, 2009 at 7:20 am  Comments (5)  
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